Christian Dating and Sex

Christian Dating and Sex Article
by Margaret Lukasik

Men and women were not meant to live alone.  Of course the Apostle Paul did make provision for those who wish to remain single to serve the Lord wholeheartedly.  However, most Christians don't wish to make that choice. And we don't have to.  When a man and a woman want to live together God has instituded marraige for that purpose to serve Him together as one, and enjoy their union as two people loving and sharing with each other.  

We were created to be social creatures and to have families. Our innate longing for companionship is not something to overlook.  We need someone to talk to, to share our interests and beliefs with, and to find comfort from when things are difficult.  If we feel alone we have God to turn to, but that doesn't override the fact that He wanted us to have a help mete to enjoy our lives with and to be a united force for Him.  

Many Christians have made the choice to have sex before marriage.  They behave pretty much as the rest of the world, but that is not God's best.  We are expected to follow Christian ethics because God is the same, yesterday, today, and forever.  The Bible doesn't change because our current social mores have.

As Christians we need to concentrate upon the New Testament which gives us the guidelines for a successful life, marriage and family. 

We are also told not to live by the flesh, but by the spirit.  Which means that as we sow spiritual seeds of obedience to God's Word, we will sow successful seeds (Galatians 6:7-9).  If we sow fleshly seeds we will sow corruption and injustice.  Such can be in the case of marriage.  Premarital sex can cause us to marry the wrong person when a child results.  It can cause us to marry someone lazy or given to drinking and drunkenness.  There are many things that can go wrong when we decide to put sex before marriage.

We are also told in Galatians 9 that if we don't become wary, we shall reap success in whatever it is that we hold strong our Christian values for.  In this case it is trusting God for a successful marriage.  He tells us in Philippians 4:19 says that He shall supply all of our needs, but we must follow His Word, not our fleshly desires.

Colossians 3:5 tells us that fornication is not within the Christian ethic, so we need to trust God that obeying this teaching will bring us a successful marriage through the practice of Christian dating and sex abstinence. 

So when dating or choosing a date, it is important that you have the attitude that sex will not be an issue before marriage.  Some people feel that they must "try out" someone before they marry as if they are going to marry a car or some inanimate object.  

We need to respect ourselves and look at who we are through Jesus Christ.  He has made us His temple.  Every time we join ourselves in sex with someone we are not married to, we are being disrespectful to Christ, to God, the Holy Spirit, our family members, and the other person, and ourselves. 

With so much about sex in our society, it can be difficult, but with Christ nothing is impossible.  As we keep our minds on Christ and let Him work in us for strength to have the best, we can hold out for marriage and be thankful while we do it.